Life is made up of relationships, I relate to myself, to other people, organizations, objects, ideas, life, the cosmos… I know myself, seeing myself reflected in the mirror of the multiple relationships of which I am part.
It’s a dance between what I am, what the others are, where the intersections are, where the limits and borders are… One might speculate that the area of relationships is the one with the greatest potential to make our lives wonderful or miserable. Perhaps for this reason, it is one of the most studied areas, and it is worth looking at it with a critical sense and learning from those who have presented good work and investigations into relational dynamics.
Below are some suggestions, some more conventional and others more provocative…
Intimacy and sexuality
Esther Perel has a long experience of working with couples in crisis, rediscovering sexuality and eroticism.
“The modern ideology of love is compelling. Never before has the couple been such a central unit in our social organization. Never have we expected more from our intimate relationships, and never have we crumbled under the weight of so many expectations.”
Esther Perel Official Site
Books ”Mating in Captivity” and “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.”
Longevity in relationships
John Gottman is a Psychologist with 40 years of breakthrough research with couples. He is world-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction.
“Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.”
John M. Gottman
John Gottman Blog
Books: “Relationship Cure – A 5 Step Guide” and “What Predicts Divorce?”
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, are too friends and mothers who decided to get together and write books about how to communicate with kids and teenagers improving the relationships between parents and children.
“Children don’t need to have their feelings agreed with; they need to have them acknowledged.”
“It’s important to make a distinction between allowing feelings and allowing actions, we must allow children to express all their feelings. But don’t allow them to hurt each other. Our job is to show them how to express their anger without doing damage.”
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Book: “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen”
See also John Gottman’s books on children: “Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child”
“When parents offer their children empathy and help them to cope with negative feelings like anger, sadness, and fear, parents build bridges of loyalty and affection.”
John M. Gottman