Non-Violent Communication

 “While we may not consider the way we talk to be ‘violent,’ words often lead to hurt and pain, whether for others or ourselves.” Marshall Rosenberg

What is Nonviolent Communication, (NVC)?

NVC, is based on the principles of nonviolence by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies – verbal or physical – are learned behaviours taught by the prevailing culture.

NVC also assumes that we all share the same, basic human needs, and that all actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs.

People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deepening connection and conflict resolution.

The four steps of NVC:

  • Observations (what are the facts – without judgment or criticism)
  • Feelings (what the specific facts of that situation made you feel)
  • Needs (what needs that aren’t being meet)
  • Requests (how to reach mutual satisfaction of the needs present in the situation – win-win outcome)

The Center for Nonviolent Communication – Official Site

Book: “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life”

Inner Dance

”In total silence, it’s that river that flows from the cosmos and into your heart. It was dancing from the higher self, and I was simply watching it move to the flow of the universe.”

Pi Villaraza, founder of Inner Dance

The Inner Dance is a transformative self-awakening process that organically leads anyone in surrender towards authentic and meaningful existence through intuitive healing, release work.

When you surrender to the sensory energy process it will become an intuitive remembrance of the True Self through heightened inner awareness of bodies, minds and emotions as energy. Your consciousness may expand effortlessly in a way that allows you to feel, experience and realize your connection and union with all that is.

Coming to the awareness of this energy and the home within themselves brings most people a more strengthened, sustainable and harmonious existence with other beings and the planet itself.

Innerdance often:

  • peels away the layers of our conditioned mental limitations
  • slowly reveals our deeper core principles and the activation of our Soul Mission, our life path
  • initiates intuitive evolution, spiritual awakening
  • releases long held emotions​, trauma​​
  • gives a remembrance of our wholeness – Oneness

Inner Dance website

Crucial Conversations

“Remember, to know and not to do is really not to know.”

Kerry Patterson

What Is a Crucial Conversation (CC)?

By CC you can imagine that they are presidents; prime ministers; kings; emperors, etc seated around a table while they debate the future of the world. When actually its more simple than that, a CC is the day-to-day conversations that affects your life because it progressed to a situation where: (1) stakes are high, (2) opinions vary, (3) emotions run strong and (4)the outcome significantly impacts the lives of those involved and there is significant risk of negative consequences.

There are three ways of dealing with crucial conversations:

  1. Avoidance;
  2. Performing poorly due to: the stress response being activated, or lack of preparation;
  3. Performing effectively.

Official Site: Vital Smarts

Book: “Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High”

Circles

This is a circle…

Regeneration

What is Regeneration?

Regeneration is a paradigm and accompanying set of capabilities based on the awareness that every life form is unique and nested within other, larger living systems.

Regeneration consists of value-adding processes. Understanding an entity or endeavour as a value-adding process means to see it alive and unfolding toward fuller expression of its essence, becoming more of who or what it is, releasing more potential into its world.

Book: “The Regenerative Life”

Relationships

Life is made up of relationships, I relate to myself, to other people, organizations, objects, ideas, life, the cosmos… I know myself, seeing myself reflected in the mirror of the multiple relationships of which I am part.

It’s a dance between what I am, what the others are, where the intersections are, where the limits and borders are… One might speculate that the area of ​​relationships is the one with the greatest potential to make our lives wonderful or miserable. Perhaps for this reason, it is one of the most studied areas, and it is worth looking at it with a critical sense and learning from those who have presented good work and investigations into relational dynamics.

Below are some suggestions, some more conventional and others more provocative…

Intimacy and sexuality

Esther Perel has a long experience of working with couples in crisis, rediscovering sexuality and eroticism.

“The modern ideology of love is compelling. Never before has the couple been such a central unit in our social organization. Never have we expected more from our intimate relationships, and never have we crumbled under the weight of so many expectations.”

Esther Perel

Esther Perel Official Site

Books ”Mating in Captivity and “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.”

Longevity in relationships

John Gottman is a Psychologist with 40 years of breakthrough research with couples. He is world-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction.

 

“Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.”
John M. Gottman

John Gottman Blog

Books:  “Relationship Cure – A 5 Step Guide” and  “What Predicts Divorce?”

Parenting

Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, are too friends and mothers who decided to get together and write books about how to communicate with kids and teenagers improving the relationships between parents and children.

“Children don’t need to have their feelings agreed with; they need to have them acknowledged.”

 

“It’s important to make a distinction between allowing feelings and allowing actions, we must allow children to express all their feelings. But don’t allow them to hurt each other. Our job is to show them how to express their anger without doing damage.”

Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

Book: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen”

See also John Gottman’s books on children: “Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child”

“When parents offer their children empathy and help them to cope with negative feelings like anger, sadness, and fear, parents build bridges of loyalty and affection.”
John M. Gottman