Mentoring2021-10-21T21:42:01+01:00

Mentoring

Below you will find 2 different paradigms of mentoring and the subject of growth, evolution and living a fulfilling life (traditional mentoring and regenerative mentoring).

Depending on your background and current situation you may be more inclined towards a more conventional approach to create the life conditions that you aim for, or might be looking for a different way than the mainstream line of thought about what it’s like to live a fulfilling and sustainable life.
We are holding space for those interested in transitioning from the first to the second paradigm, as a means to support a sustainable and healing way to develop ourselves and the projects we energize. It’s possible to work with one or a combination of both paradigms for you to be able to experience and choose by yourself how to best bring your life forward.

“A lot of people have gone further than they thought they could because someone else thought they could.” – Zig Zaglar

Have you ever been with someone that was really interested in listening to your ideas and struggles about life, was able to see you and your raw potential. And in top of that had life experience and organized methods to help you keep your spark alive, find your creative potency and fulfilling relationships?
If that’s the case you found a mentor.
If not, just imagine how it could impact your life and those around you.

The mentoring process is an intentional relationship focused on promoting the growth of a whole person through guidance, reflection, intensity and organized learning.
It strives to create enhanced ownership by providing participants with experiential (hands-on) learning and an active reflection component.

In a mentoring relationship mentor and mentee engage in a support-based intense relationship that brings about life advancement and psychosocial development.

How it happens:

1) Connect

Usually there is an initial meeting that occurs preferably in person, for mentor and mentee to connect and share the necessary background information, goals, aspirations, personal experience and expertise, in order to realize if they are a good match to collaborate towards the achievement of the goals and transformation pretended.

2) Establishing the foundation

In this stage we start to map the existing resources, way of thinking, possible approaches, appropriate time-line, expectations, establish work and communication processes. The aim is to carve the initial strategy and establish a collaboration contract.

3) Testing the waters

It’s time for deliberate practice in a safe environment in order to gain self-knowledge about where on the road we are, clarify values, goals and vision of success.
It’s time to evolve old ways of thinking and perception in order to tap into dormant potential.

4) Modeling

After practice and having developed the necessary skill and confidence we are ready to implement the changes in daily situations.
The outcomes are translated into informative feedback and when necessary we go back to the practice.

5) Integration

We reflect upon the journey finding the hidden pearls and celebrating the millstones, we look again at the initial dreams and aspirations and wonder what’s next…

The starting point

Every person has a role and place in the world awaiting to be energized, we carry an intentional direction to evolve ourselves, the story of human life and the planet earth. To align ourselves with our unique essence is the crucial endeavour to live purposefully without compromising our inner sense of integrity. Only from our unique sense of integrity is it possible to reach sustainable prosperity and levels of meaning and commitment that most people only dream of.
A human being capable of managing it’s own state of being with awareness of the larger living-systems that we belong to, can endlessly advance intentional evolution and the expression of each living system’s potential.  This nature of growth is the most certain path to make a greater contribution, sourced from our individual uniqueness and essence and experience more meaning in our lives.

A different paradigm

The regenerative worldview is characterized by developmental practices. Rather than solving problems, filling gaps, building skills, or articulating goals and purposes, it’s organizing concept is to provide individuals with the resources required for understanding and expressing their unique essences. In development programs, goals emerge if and when a person needs them in order to engage more fully in essence expression. Mentors work on causes or restraints only within the context of what is currently limiting essence realization. They do not dig into these causes; instead they put the power of their own developing personalities (our learned and socialized selves) to work in support of their mentees’ essence expression. That is, the mentoring process is led by the mentee’s essence, rather than the mentor’s personality. Essence becomes the primary organizing concept in every situation and with each entity involved.

The core characteristics of Regenerative Mentoring

There are three core characteristics that differentiate mentoring based on the regenerative worldview.
The first is support for essence expression. Essence, innate to a person and not related to the socialization process by which personality is formed, is what a person is. In the science of living systems and within indigenous cultures, every living thing is understood to be unique, to be essentially itself. No living entity is a duplicate, each is exactly itself, unique.

The second characteristic is a commitment to the evolution of the mentee’s inner capacities, rather than transmitting or filling them up with professional methods and practices. The particular capacities to be developed are based on the direction the mentee is pursuing. The mentor’s role is to resource improvements in the mentee’s thinking, discernment, and self-mastery, enabling them to play a beneficial role in the system that they are seeking to affect. The mentee is supported as a change agent in their own life and the world in which they take action.

The core human capacities to be developed through regenerative mentoring are the internal locus of control, external considering, and personal agency. Internal locus of control is accepting full responsibility for one’s actions and their effects on self and others, rather than blaming others and feeling victimized. Scope of considering is the extent to which we take others into account in our decision making and when we take action. Are we thinking mostly or only about ourselves or are we acting with compassion and concern for the welfare of others? As personal agency develops, we transition from reliance on external sources of authority and influence to trust in our own higher purposes and aims. These three core capacities are a foundation for the development of additional capacities and capabilities specific to the mentee’s chosen professional and personal aspirations.

Development of the core human capacities is consistent with the third characteristic of regenerative development, engagement in the protégés self-directed, experience-based learning as a resource rather than an authoritative expert. The mentor ceases to see themselves as transmitters of knowledge or skill, and instead takes on the role of resource for a person engaged in building the capability to make their own assessments of what is factual, true, or morally correct.
The mentor disappears as the protégé turns towards himself as the source of wisdom, learning, and growth. The mentor’s only job is to assist with the protégé with their development of the capability to use critical thinking skills well and to test offered ideas before adopting them.
Regenerative mentors encourage protégés to question authority and never to borrow established practices without examining and testing them. In fact, the mentor’s role becomes that of Socratic questioner, bringing self-discovered wisdom into the experience and practice of the mentee through a process of inquiry.

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